amateur Chinese girl: jingjing there... so cute

First off, let me just say this: If you know or are attracted to a Chinese girl, don't ask her what she wants you to do in order for her to be attracted to you, or ask another Chinese girl about what Chinese girls are attracted to in a man! One reason, the most obvious one, is after you tell her you are attracted to her she may run for the hills (not always the case though). Another reason is some of the things she will tell you just plain 'won't do you any favors'! I will say this though in their favor, you do have a higher chance of some of the things a Chinese girl will tell you will attract her, being true, as opposed to a western girl. Although many Chinese girls will describe their ideal idea of what a man should be, it doesn't mean that will actually attract them(if a guy they are already in love with does that, then yeah, great, they are happy, but they didn't fall in love with him because he did those things).

Let's look at a few winning tips:

1. Add a touch of romance to any of your dates with her. Personally, I would say flowers would be going too far and may not get the desired result; it could also result in her pulling away, rather than getting closer to you if she hasn't decided she wants a relationship with you yet. A low-lit restaurant is by far the best choice, if they have candles on the table, so much the better. It's more than enough romantic effect to be going on.

2. Don't necessarily assume she would like to choose what to order in a restaurant; honestly I have been on so many dates where asking them to choose some dishes they like fills them with a sense of horror! Often it's the fear they will choose something you don't like, even if you explain you really don't mind, they may still shy away from it. Be a man, and make a decision.

3. At the end of the date, if it's night-time, make sure you actually take her to her home, or at the very least make sure she gets in a taxi. In view of Chinese girls brought up in Asia, they are not nearly so streetwise as western women (even if they have been living in a western country for some time), she won't really feel safe going home at night alone, even if she says she does.

These are just a few dating Chinese girls tips that will help create attraction, which let's face it, is what you want to do. Just one word of warning: don't try to fit dating/attraction techniques that would work with western women onto Chinese women/girls. Most, simply do not work!

All the best,
Sam Reeves